The oft-repeated adage, “better to cry in a private jet than on a bicycle,” has led many astray. Renowned South African DJ, Black Coffee, discussed a revealing incident during a recent interview, recounting a time when he gifted his now ex-wife, Enhle Mbali, an extravagant car. He anticipated tears of joy, but her reaction proved otherwise. Often, when one offers a gift with certain expectations, disappointment ensues.

It is a common notion that affluent individuals may be prone to infidelity and mistreatment in relationships, relying on lavish gifts or opulent trips as apologies. However, as relationships evolve, so do our values. Understanding and fulfilling our partner’s needs fosters mutual growth and alignment. Each person’s love language differs, and these preferences may evolve over time. While it may appear that Black Coffee’s ex-wife was ungrateful, perhaps her desires extended beyond material possessions.

Black Coffee’s acknowledgment of his former spouse’s differing needs reflects a commendable level of self-awareness and accountability. Sometimes, a change in behaviour holds more significance than grandiose and costly gestures.